As parents we all know the frustration of trying to get our children to listen to us and then find ourselves repeating the same thing over and over again until we're out of patience. The goal is always to instruct our children in a positive way, but some days it's just tough! We get it — we are parents too, and we've found a few key strategies that have been critical in helping us redirect our children in a positive way, while maintaining our patience and our sanity!
1. Change Focus:
You've probably experienced that a child's attention can switch at a moments notice. Use this to your advantage! When your little one gets into something that they shouldn't or is getting upset because they want a toy that a friend is already playing with, avoid the soon to be meltdown and offer another option. Get down on their level, grab their attention and suggest, "Molly is reading that book right now, let's read this one about dinosaurs, they are your favorite!"
2. Make it Fun:
Instead of fighting the tide, find a way to make it fun for your child to follow directions. For example, you need your child to go upstairs and get ready for bed. Try the old game, "Last one upstairs is a rotten egg!" Suddenly, you'll find your little one in a race to beat you upstairs and instead of a stressful time, you've created a fun transition to bedtime!
3. Positive Reinforcement:
Find praiseworthy moments to tell your child what they are doing right. All children crave their parents attention, by telling them that you are proud of them and that they are doing something well, you will reinforce positive behavior.
4. Show Your Feelings:
We all have bad days. In fact, for most of us, it's pretty difficult to go through an entire day without making a mistake, so why do we expect anything different from our children? It's OK to tell your child when you are having a bad day and need a break. Even telling them, "I"m getting upset because I'm on the phone and there is too much noise," can go a long way toward establishing positive behavior and allowing your child to feel comfortable expressing his or her feelings.
Parenting is hard, we get it. However, when you use these helpful tips you can absolutely make progress with your child in improving their behavior and reinforcing and promoting positive behavior!
作为爸爸妈妈，咱们都希望孩子能够听咱们的话，但是却发现咱们经常在一遍又一遍地重复相同的工作中逐渐失掉耐性，形成深深的挫折感。其实咱们的意图也是想以一种活跃的方法教育咱们的孩子，但有的时分好像很困难，后来咱们理解了——要寻觅一些有用的战略，在协助咱们以活跃的方法引导咱们的孩子的一起，也要坚持咱们的耐性和沉着！
1.改动焦点：
你或许有过这样的阅历：孩子的注意力瞬间转化的特别快，使用这个优势：当你的宝宝由于想要一个小朋友已经在玩的玩具而堕入哭闹或是不快乐的时分，为了尽最大或许防止孩子的溃散，这时分家长应该及时供给另一个挑选来捉住他们的注意力，让宝宝冷静下来。家长能够说：“莫莉现在正在读那本书，让咱们读这本关于恐龙的书，恐龙是你的独爱！”
2.让这件事故得风趣
与其与孩子共同对立，不如想办法让你的孩子依照指示行事。例如，你想让孩子上楼睡觉试试老游戏：“最终一个上楼的是臭鸡蛋！”突然间，你会发现你的小家伙在一场竞赛中打败你，而你用轻松地游戏，发明了一个风趣的过渡到就寝时间！
3.正强化：
找一些值得称赞的时间，告知你的孩子他们做得对。一切的孩子都巴望爸爸妈妈的重视，告知他们你为他们感到自豪，他们做得很好，就会促进活跃的行为。
4.表达你的感触：
事实上，咱们都有糟糕的日子，对咱们大多数人来说，一整天都不犯错误是适当困难的，那么为什么咱们对孩子的希望会不一样呢？当你今日心境欠好需求歇息的时分，告知你的孩子是能够的。即便告知他们“我很不快乐，由于我在打电话，噪音太大了”，也能这样做才能够在很大程度上协助孩子树立活跃的行为，让孩子感觉到表达自己爱情的舒适。
咱们理解教育孩子真的很难，但是，当你使用了这些有用的提示，你肯定能够与你的孩子在改进他们的行为、加强和促进活跃的行为方面获得发展！
